Google translation of the original article in Portuguese:
https://the.ismaili/portugal/antes-ocup ... s%E2%80%9D
Busier than “poorly accompanied”
Loneliness is cunning and treacherous, it takes advantage of the moments when we are most vulnerable and most fragile. It starts by frightening and scaring us and then slowly settling in and imposing its schedules, changing our routines, stifling our interests and stealing our motivation. And then, we realized that it is our only company.
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Sometimes we even realize it, but it tastes good. It gives us a feeling of rest, of some freedom, of no obligations and, therefore, we allow that false feeling to take over our daily lives.
In principle, it could even be beneficial to retire to solitude in certain circumstances because we need to reflect with ourselves, because we want to appease the pain, or because we simply want to breathe and walk. However, the risk of being trapped "in that" isolated place, where our thoughts and emotions keep ruminating and paralyze our walking, is too high.
When we realize that we have started to avoid noise, to become impatient with trivial conversations, to hide inside the house, to avoid communication with those around us and to lose interest in the tasks and activities that once gave us so much satisfaction , then you need to ask for help to combat loneliness.
Therefore, our full attention is needed. We are all co-responsible for the common well-being of our neighbors, our family, our friends and / or neighbors and the people of our community. Each of us can make a difference through small actions and attitudes: a phone call, an invitation to do a regular activity, an outing, or any other way that can help the other not to isolate.
But the decision has to be made by the person himself. Asking for help is an act of courage. It means that we want to fight and fight loneliness, that we have to shake up our day and occupy our time with routines and tasks that compel us to move, think and communicate. For example, going out on the street to do some shopping, taking an exercise class, reading a book or doing written exercises or mental challenges and talking with friends and family.
Loneliness can be lazy and tricky, but we are endowed with will and determination and can fight it by saying No, No and No!
Loneliness: Why is it inseperable from human existence?
How can one live 'alone and happy?
Living alone and by yourself is something everybody must practice once in a while.
Let me tell you one thing clearly. Nobody is permanent in your life except for your parents and your closest friends. So people come, people go and you have to be able to deal with it.
Coming to your question, here are somethings you can do to stay 'alone and happy' :
- Set short-term goals to improve yourself. Learn new things everyday and gain knowledge. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER.
- Try learning new languages. Trust me, you can flaunt it and it'll improve your confidence.
- Do things that make you feel proud about yourself. Like maybe a self-improvement week where you know more about yourself and develop on your strengths.
- Check out Quora every now and then.
- Watch your favorite videos on YouTube. (Tech videos or stand-up comedy)
- Last but not the least, keep hogging and stay fit. Trust me, the way people treat you when you're fit is totally different from how they treat you when you're fat and unattractive. I know this isn't fair and people shouldn't do that but that's how it is.
- Make your parents proud. The happiness you'll get is second to none.
So, I hope that helped. There's many more things you can do but I feel these are the most important ones.
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Living alone and by yourself is something everybody must practice once in a while.
Let me tell you one thing clearly. Nobody is permanent in your life except for your parents and your closest friends. So people come, people go and you have to be able to deal with it.
Coming to your question, here are somethings you can do to stay 'alone and happy' :
- Set short-term goals to improve yourself. Learn new things everyday and gain knowledge. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER.
- Try learning new languages. Trust me, you can flaunt it and it'll improve your confidence.
- Do things that make you feel proud about yourself. Like maybe a self-improvement week where you know more about yourself and develop on your strengths.
- Check out Quora every now and then.
- Watch your favorite videos on YouTube. (Tech videos or stand-up comedy)
- Last but not the least, keep hogging and stay fit. Trust me, the way people treat you when you're fit is totally different from how they treat you when you're fat and unattractive. I know this isn't fair and people shouldn't do that but that's how it is.
- Make your parents proud. The happiness you'll get is second to none.
So, I hope that helped. There's many more things you can do but I feel these are the most important ones.
https://www.quora.com/
What are the advantages of being single?
I have been living now 10 years mostly by myself so i have some experience with Solitude.
One very important thing to understand is that just like we eat food, same way out mind is also constantly feeding.
Your Gender, Color, Religion, Ethnicity etc doesn't matter.
The mind is same.
So, when you have trained your mind or at least made it comfortable to stay with itself and not constantly look for other people and their ideas/interaction to feed on, what you do is that you become somewhat more self sufficient.
You may think this is being Anti-Social.
But it's the opposite!, i can talk to people about their lives and issues for a long time, because i usually don't want much out of them(most of the times).
Same way, all relationships would be better if people can be more self reliant and seek out less from others.
A person who is comfortable in his/her own company will always be fine living with others if needed.
These are the benefits of Solitude.
I will leave you with a quote from Pali Canon,
Blissful is solitude
for one who's content,
who has heard the Dhamma,
who sees.
Blissful is non-affliction
with regard for the world,
restraint for living beings.
Blissful is dispassion
with regard for the world,
the overcoming of sensuality.
But the subduing of the conceit "I am"
That is truly
the ultimate bliss.
https://www.quora.com/
I have been living now 10 years mostly by myself so i have some experience with Solitude.
One very important thing to understand is that just like we eat food, same way out mind is also constantly feeding.
Your Gender, Color, Religion, Ethnicity etc doesn't matter.
The mind is same.
So, when you have trained your mind or at least made it comfortable to stay with itself and not constantly look for other people and their ideas/interaction to feed on, what you do is that you become somewhat more self sufficient.
You may think this is being Anti-Social.
But it's the opposite!, i can talk to people about their lives and issues for a long time, because i usually don't want much out of them(most of the times).
Same way, all relationships would be better if people can be more self reliant and seek out less from others.
A person who is comfortable in his/her own company will always be fine living with others if needed.
These are the benefits of Solitude.
I will leave you with a quote from Pali Canon,
Blissful is solitude
for one who's content,
who has heard the Dhamma,
who sees.
Blissful is non-affliction
with regard for the world,
restraint for living beings.
Blissful is dispassion
with regard for the world,
the overcoming of sensuality.
But the subduing of the conceit "I am"
That is truly
the ultimate bliss.
https://www.quora.com/